Overview

This activity helps couples recognise how they each respond when something feels off, and choose a simple way to reset in the moment.

Step 1: Choose your reset style together

Options:

• Pause and check in

• Say something and move on

• Take a moment and come back

• Keep it light

Step 2: What helps

Prompt:
“What helps you feel like things are back to normal?”

Each person selects up to two:

• A quick check-in

• Talking it through

• A bit of space

• An apology

• A change in tone

• Letting it go

Step 3: Compare

Display both people’s selections side by side.

Highlight:

• Where answers are similar

• Where they are different

Step 4: Choose your reset

Prompt:
“Choose one simple reset you want to use together”

Options:

• “Are we okay?”

• “Let’s reset for a second”

• “I didn’t mean that the way it sounded”

• “Did that land okay?”

Or allow custom input.