Try asking each other:

• When do you feel most connected to me?

• What do we do that feels like “us”?

• What helps you feel close, even when life is busy?

• What’s one small thing we could do more often?

The bite-size version 

• Stay intentional about your connection over time

• Use the time you already have to check in properly

• Small moments of attention build closeness

• Make space to connect, not just coexist

• Keep coming back to each other 

A Jewish Lens

Jewish life includes regular moments of pause and connection, such as Shabbat, which create space to step out of routine and be present. In relationships, connection is often built in a similar way, through small, consistent moments of returning to each other over time.